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On Grief

Several people in my life have experienced the loss of loved ones this past year. The deaths that touched them were unexpected and tragic. Their loves were young and irreplaceable.

These losses go on affecting my friends in ways I don’t fully understand. The depth of their grief is something I can only imagine. I only know the loss of a love is a wound, and wounds cannot be ignored. They have to be tended to and nutured over time.

Recently, I’ve learned of other losses suffered by friends…All these losses remind me how precious life is. They remind me that I need to pay more attention.

Julia Cameron once wrote of pain and grief:

In times of pain, when the future is too terrifying to contemplate and the past too painful to remember, I have learned to pay attention to the right now. The precise moment I was in was always the only safe place for me. Each moment, taken alone, was always bearable. In the exact now, we are always all right. Yesterday the marriage may have ended. Tomorrow the cat may die. The phone call from the lover, for all my waiting may not ever come, but just at the moment, just now, that’s all right. I am breathing in and out. Realizing this, I began to notice that each moment was not without its beauty.”

To all those who feel grief at this moment, I hope you find comfort in the beauty…the sun going down and rising again…the birds in the morning…the moon…the lantana in bloom by the side of the road…your own breath, in an out…

1 comment to On Grief

  • After nearly 40 years on this planet, it was only last August that someone that I know – personally, someone that I knew well – actually died. And two weeks later, another. Until then, I had never known how devastating the loss of a friend was. I consider myself TRULY fortunate to have not lost anyone until such a relatively late age in my life.